For many years, I navigated deep periods of depression without ever opening up about it. Despite the heavy burden, I tried to make everyone around me happy. Today, thanks to self-reflection and counseling, I’ve made significant progress.
Here are ten points from my journey that I hope will resonate with you and inspire you on your path to self-discovery and well-being.
1. Acknowledging the Problem
The first step was recognizing and admitting that I was struggling with depression. This acknowledgment was crucial because it allowed me to seek help and start my journey toward healing.
2. Seeking Professional Help
Counseling played a vital role in my recovery. A professional therapist provided me with tools and strategies to manage my depression and work on my self-esteem.
3. Self-Reflection
Spending time in self-reflection helped me understand the root causes of my low self-esteem and people-pleasing tendencies. This deep introspection was challenging but necessary for growth.
4. Setting Boundaries
I learned the importance of setting boundaries to protect my mental health. Saying “no” when necessary and prioritizing my needs helped me break the cycle of people-pleasing.
5. Self-Care Practices
Incorporating self-care into my daily routine was a game-changer. Whether it’s exercise, meditation, or simply taking time to relax, self-care helped me build a healthier relationship with myself.
6. Celebrating Small Wins
Recognizing and celebrating small achievements along the way boosted my confidence and reinforced my progress. Every step forward, no matter how small, was a victory.
7. Building a Support Network
Surrounding myself with supportive friends and family who understood and respected my journey was essential. Their encouragement provided me with the strength to keep going.
8. Letting Go of Perfectionism
I learned to let go of the unrealistic expectation of perfection. Embracing my imperfections and understanding that it’s okay to make mistakes was liberating.
9. Practicing Gratitude
Focusing on the positive aspects of my life and practicing gratitude helped shift my mindset. It allowed me to appreciate the present moment and the progress I was making.
10. Embracing Vulnerability
Opening up about my struggles was one of the hardest yet most rewarding steps. Sharing my story not only helped me heal but also connected me with others facing similar challenges.
Conclusion
There are many achievements I cherish, but I truly believe my biggest victory is overcoming my low self-esteem and the habit of being a people pleaser. It reminds me of what a flight attendant says when you board a plane: you have to secure your own mask before helping others with theirs.
If my journey resonates with you, I’d love to hear your thoughts. Please like, share, and follow my page for more insights and stories about overcoming life’s challenges. Let’s support each other on this path to self-discovery and well-being.
Steve Lofton 
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